Saying Yes to Things That Scare Me
I've seen some quilters talk about why saying no is important lately. It's easy to get caught up in saying yes to every opportunity that comes your way even if it might not make sense for you or your business. Saying yes can quickly make you overwhelmed, overworked, and burned out. Those points are completely valid, for people who actually say yes to things.
I, on the other hand am all too happy to say no to any and everything. It's like my superpower, albeit one that doesn't do me much good. I'm an introvert and interacting with new people in new situations is draining and mentally exhausting. Saying no and hiding is my place of comfort. I think I've gotten way out of my comfort zone in this past year in terms of my business. But I have so much more work to do.
Cheryl Sleboda of Muppin.com said earlier this year that her practice of saying yes helped her meet her goals and build her business. I'd like to practice saying yes to help expand my business, as well as to help me with some of my personal interactions. So for now, I've decided to try saying yes to new and scary things more often.
I've decided that 2018 will be my "Year of Yes". I am going to say yes even though I'm freaking out on the inside. I'm not going to say yes to absolutely everything. And obviously, this isn't going to be easy. I can't turn a lifetime of NOs into a year of YESses just like that. It's going to take some work.
So a few weeks ago, I said yes to something that really scared me. I agreed to be interviewed by someone for a podcast. She approached me in my booth at Quilt Market and asked me about participating. I was very noncommittal about it and was hoping it would just all go away. But a few weeks ago she contacted me to schedule a time to interview. I really wanted to say no. After a few days of burying my head in the sand, I said yes.
And today was the day. About an hour before the scheduled time, I felt ill. I wanted to email her to tell her that I've changed my mind. I made a huge mistake. I need to cancel. My "Year of Yes" doesn't start for another 11 days anyway! But I sucked it up and did it anyway. The time flew by. It wasn't nearly as scary as I thought it was going to be. I even agreed to some more possible follow-up interviews in the future.
Hopefully, once I find my bravery to say yes to more things, I'll find that they aren't actually all that scary. I know there will be days when saying yes seems impossible. But hopefully, instead of reverting to my usual no, I'll remember why I wanted to start on this journey in the first place.